‘Confidence’ comes from the Latin word fidere, meaning ‘to trust’. Self- confidence basically means to trust or to have faith in oneself.
So to act with confidence requires self-confidence. These tips will deliver that self-confidence you seek so that you can act with confidence and find your success!
Yes, confidence will result in more success in life.
A confident person is able to act on opportunities, rise to new challenges, take control of difficult situations, and accept responsibility and criticism if things go wrong.
They are able to act in a way that outwardly gives the impression of experience, expertise, knowledge, even mastery, regardless of the situation.
YOU are that person! You just don’t know it yet. That is correct, you have everything in you right now, that you need to be the confident person you desire to be, you just need a little help reconnecting with that part of yourself.
Have you ever noticed that children are naturally confident. They ask and get what they want, or at least they try to.
Have you ever seen a child want something? They keep asking and asking until they get it. It doesn’t matter if it’s an expensive bike or a new doll or favorite food.
They are energetically creative in influencing anyone who can help them get what they want.
We are all naturally like that, but somewhere along the way, people started opposing our actions. For some of us that meant becoming shy, while for others it meant losing their natural self-confidence.
The good news is that you can tap back into that confidence if you want
So let’s get you started. Here are my five most important tips to help you become more confident right now. Remember, Confidence is NOT a switch you turn on and off, it is a habit you develop which gets more powerful and impactful, the more often you utilise it.
So start using these tips right away and use them often. Before you know it, you will be confident, not just acting, but actually confident!
Let’s GO!
Confidence by definition requires you to trust and believe in yourself. One of the quickest ways to undermine this trust and belief is to listen to the little voice in your head. You know the one I mean. That little voice which second guesses and starts to tell you what is going to happen next.
Ever said any of these before?
I know I have and a whole lot more! It doesn’t leave you feeling very confident when you start to listen to this self-talk does it? But you know what? If you start to think this way, you feel this way, you then act this way and then . . . . . yep, you are seen this way!
The good news is that you can stop this cycle right up front.
Call yourself out.
Hey voice in my head! That is a load of bull! You know why you can say that and know it is true?? Answer me these questions;
Ok. Based on the answers you just gave; can you see the problem with your thinking?
This is called self-limiting thought. It is exactly as it’s called, self-limiting and it achieves the exact opposite of confidence, self-belief and trust!
So challenge your voices in your head with rational questions. Argue, fight and demand they change their focus, for you are in control of the now and that is what will determine the outcomes which are yet to occur!
Confidence comes from knowing what you can control and focusing on where you can make a difference here and now.
Confident people know they cannot change the past. They know that worrying about what might happen in the future is futile as this is yet to occur, but they can change the future by acting in the present. They make daily choices that lead them toward the future they want to live out.
So don’t waste time or energy trying to control or change things that are beyond your influence. Focus your attention and energy impacting the things you can control.
If you don’t have the knowledge, you can go and seek it out. If you don’t have the time, you can create the time and prioritise. You feel overwhelmed? Plan, prioritise, simplify, cut excess, drop unhelpful activities, all things which you control.
Control gives you confidence and trust through your own actions!
One of the most common and destructive fears we have is that of failure. This fear is directly driven by some of self-limiting thoughts mentioned previously in this report. The fear of failure is either driven from an experience, or worry about an outcome which has not occurred. It may also be fueled by fears of letting others down, a need for gratification or acknowledgement which is threatened or any number of things where you don’t meet an expectation.
I will take you back to the first tip, mindset. If we are working to address our mindset so that we are growth mindset focused, then if we do fail, it should be a lesson. A way that we can learn how not to do something and then a lead to try again.
Even the most successful people have challenging beliefs and fears about themselves and about what might happen. The biggest difference between these people and you, is they choose to focus on their strengths and the learning opportunities instead of allowing anything less than success to label or define them.
Failure is a pathway to a new set of actions. It does not define us, it does not label us, it simply provides us feedback on how not to achieve the outcome we desire.
Once you realise that there is no shame, no label, no outcome other than that which you create, you have confidence that you can act now, win, learn or draw, you will either have success or valuable knowledge about how to do something better! This is how you trust in yourself. This is Confidence.
One of the worst thing you can do for your confidence is compare yourself to others.
Consider this. How much of your life do you share with your partner? Now, how much do you share with your work colleagues? What about with your closest group of friends? Now what do you tell the guy at the counter in the local shops?
I would bet my house you have different levels of detail and very different topics you would discuss with each of those groups. So when you compare yourself to someone else, it’s like comparing two icebergs. You just never know what is hidden under the surface.
Remember that you’re seeing the surface of their lives, not the underlying reality. Focus instead on what’s important–your own strengths and goals. Otherwise you end up making judgements about them and even more harmful, comparative judgements about yourself! Yep, there is that little voice again!
It’s that habit of going into your mind and demanding reassurance that you are good, equal or worthy in comparison to others or your own expectations that is the root of low self-esteem, and low confidence. We need to understand our own point of judgement.
One thing I’ve noticed about people with low confidence is that they tend to be unnecessarily harsh on judging, of ascribing “good” and “bad” to situations or people.
When we judge others, we implicitly open ourselves up to the same judgements. When we suspend judgment, and accept others, make it easier to accept ourselves.
Labeling things as “good” or “bad” is often just lazy thinking, especially when we apply that judgement to ourselves.
Remember back to all we have covered already on mindset, failure and predicting the future outcomes of events.
It probably sounds like confidence is all in your head. Well, it is much more than that. Confidence is also about communication. How you communicate to others, and also how you communicate with yourself!
If you think back to a time when you had worries and they weighed you down. Do you remember how this felt? Now how does your body react to that feeling?
Do you slouch over, forward, rounding your shoulders, head drops, mouth drops, chest tightens up and your breathing shallows? Feel it? It doesn’t radiate a persona of confidence when you look and feel like that!
Did you know you can “act” your way into confidence? That’s right, you may not feel it right away, but you can “act as if” and before you know it, you start to feel as if, then wow – You actually are operating with confidence. This is driven purely by communication a different way to your own body, which then changes how you are thinking and feeling.
Stand tall, shoulders back and chest tall. Chin up. Take a deep breath, filling up your diaphragm expanding your ribs to their maximum capacity and then exhale slowly and controlled. Do this 4 times.
Smile. Make it touch the corners of your eyes.
Stand tall.
I know this feels different to the hunched over, slouching shallow position you may have been in earlier! Do this process and walk tall and feel yourself change in how you feel.
This isn’t some BS, the body reacts to positive posture and can release matching hormones and chemicals to promote the need to “be confident” so don’t fight your biology!
Everyone has, in the back of their minds, an image of themselves. This image is not the real you, it is a model, an idea of yourself that has been built up over time and often controls your behaviour. This image is usually shaped more by our experiences in childhood / adolescents than a rational assessment of who we really are today.
Things like changing your style up and dressing a bit better can improve your confidence by improving your self-image. But simply being aware of your self-image, how you let it affect you, is an important step towards changing how you feel about yourself, your own labels and your confidence.
Boosting your confidence requires you to find positivity in life. Look at the silver lining in every situation, and distance yourself from those who make you feel worthless. There will be many people who will be unhappy by seeing your success. It is important to filter out such people from your life or at worst, minimize their impact.
Negative people aren’t the only ones you need to get rid of; you also need to stop thinking negatively. Think positively, and believe that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Having a positive mindset helps in developing confidence, especially when you start to believe in the positive intent.
Have you ever wondered how some of the most successful names to date have managed to remain in the field, even when faced with criticism? The answer is simple; they have surrounded themselves with people who bring out the best in them. You need to do the same.
Do you remember a time you felt fear about doing something? But you did it anyway. How did this make you feel?
How often do you recall that event and remind yourself of THAT feeling?
Positive affirmation is a powerful tool to help you challenge all of those barriers and limiting beliefs you have established over your life.
Self-confidence isn’t the impression you give others but how you feel about yourself. It’s all about who you are, where you are, and where you want to be in your own life and leadership. So applying a lot of positive, yet realistic enforcement to your day can go a long way to changing your confidence and your approach to the world around you.
Until next time…. Coach Vaughan
Author: Vaughan Carder (B.A Humanities)
Master Coach
🔥 𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗢𝗡𝗚(𝗛𝗘𝗥) & 𝗨𝗡𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗣𝗣𝗔𝗕𝗟𝗘! 🔥
What an absolute privilege it was to coach these incredible women in today’s Strong(her) Class. Week after week, they show up, put in the work, and prove that strength isn’t just about muscles—it’s about resilience, confidence, and pushing through whatever life throws their way. 💪✨
This stage of life comes with challenges, but these warriors aren’t backing down. They’re lifting, sweating, and thriving—rewriting the script on what’s possible. The best part? They’re not just getting stronger in the gym; they’re getting stronger for LIFE. 🚀
To all the women out there who feel like their bodies are changing faster than they can keep up—know this: You are not alone, and you are more powerful than you think. 🔥 Keep lifting. Keep fighting. Keep showing up.
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🌅 Rise and Shine with the TFW Familia! 🌅
Look at these jazz hands! 🎷💥 Our crew is out here eating the early worm and getting that huge dopamine hit with their Barbell Complex grind at the crack of dawn! 🏋️♂️🔥
💪 Early mornings = serious gains, serious energy, and serious vibes. This squad doesn`t just wake up — they level up. ⏰
Who needs coffee when you’ve got this much fire before 7AM? 🔥💥
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The truth is, exercise isn’t one-size-fits-all! At Training for Warriors - Coffs Coast, we believe that working out is all about finding what works for YOU. 💪
𝙃𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙬𝙤 𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙮 𝙩𝙞𝙥𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙠𝙞𝙘𝙠𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮:
1️⃣ Mix it up and make it enjoyable: Whether it’s weights, bodyweight exercises, or even cardio, explore what energizes you and keeps you moving forward! You’re more likely to stick with something that feels good and fun. 🏋️♀️
2️⃣ Set achievable goals for yourself: Nothing feels better than progress! Start small, and celebrate each step you take. Consistent, realistic goals are key to building confidence and momentum. 🎯
At TFW - Coffs Coast, our team is here to support and guide you every step of the way. Ready to find your favourite way to train? Drop us a message, and let’s find the right fit for your fitness journey!
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🌞 Hello November, hello TFW Coffs Coast familia! 💪🌊
Mid-spring is here, and that means it’s time to crank up the heat on those workouts! November is all about building momentum, pushing limits, and getting summer- and Christmas-ready together. Whether you’re starting fresh or aiming to reach new highs, this month is YOURS.
🔥 Spring into Action
Beach days are here, or if you`re cool water shy - it is just around the corner, so let’s bring that energy to every session! Warm up, push hard, and make the most of every rep. What’s your go-to move for getting summer-ready? Drop your fav workout in the comments below! 👇
📅 Plan It to Win It
Success loves a plan! Take a moment to write down a few fitness goals for the month—whether it’s hitting a new PR, showing up consistently, eating clean until the party season or mastering a new technique. Let’s make progress every single day.
Let’s crush November together, familia! Who’s ready to push their limits and make this month count? 🌟
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This morning’s workout was nothing short of a metabolic BURNER.
We came in early, pushed through every set, every rep, and left feeling unstoppable.
What’s the payoff? Tonight, a few Halloween treats are on the menu - guilt-free.
When you put in the work, you earn the play. It’s as simple as that.
Tonight, those candy wrappers won’t come with a side of guilt; we’ve got the metabolic fires roaring to make sure of that.
Remember, balance is key. It’s not about depriving ourselves, but knowing that we’ve earned those treats.
Let’s celebrate the grind. You in?
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Hump Day done right... Barbell Flows for the win. Its safe to say tonight was on the tougher side 😰, but boy did this crew rise to the challenge💪
And they`re still all smiles!😁
We`re missing a few of our crew for the photo, but we can assure you, those peeps who flew off after class had big smiles too!
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You know Greenie as the guy who always brings the laughs 😂 cracking jokes and keeping the gym light-hearted. But on a 1RM testing day? The humor fades, and something incredible happens 🔥
Yesterday was one of those days. Last night, while you were lazing around, with a drink or the munchies in hand, Greenie`s deadlift bar was loaded up, and all eyes on him. He was focused—locked-in, eyes-steel-serious and focused 😤
Screwing the hands into the bar, screwing feet into the floor, he gave a quick, couple of full huffs and puffs. then he was off,
170kg on the bar.
One rep 💪
Two reps 💥
HEAD TO HEEL - STRONG AS STEEL!
Each with a roar that echoed through the gym.. well maybe this bit I`m embellishing.. it was only a grunt..
And when the numbers were in? Those two reps translated to a jaw-dropping 1RM of 181.32kg! 🏋️♂️
Greenie doesn’t mess around on testing days—because even the funny guy knows when it’s time to get serious and smash some records 👊💯
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Training for power isn’t just for athletes or bodybuilders—it’s something every fitness enthusiast can benefit from. 💪
Think about it. Power is the ability to move with speed & force. ⚡ It’s not just about lifting heavy weights but lifting them quickly & efficiently. And that carries over into real life in ways you might not expect.
Imagine picking up your kids, jumping over obstacles, or reacting quickly to prevent a fall. 👨👩👧👦🦸♂️ All of these require power. By training for it, you`re conditioning your body to perform explosive movements, which translate into everyday tasks becoming easier and more efficient.
Power training also engages fast-twitch muscle fibres—the ones responsible for quick, intense movements. 💥 By activating these, you`re not just building strength but also improving your muscle coordination and endurance. This means you’ll be quicker on your feet, more agile, and less prone to injury. 🚶♂️⚡
Plus, it’s fun! 🎉 Power training keeps things dynamic & challenging. Whether it’s plyometrics, kettlebell swings or Olympic lifts, you’re constantly moving in a way that builds functional strength & keeps you engaged. 🏋️♂️🔥
Today, we took things up a notch, working on the kettlebell snatch—a perfect exercise for developing power & understanding how our bodies generate it.
🏋️♀️ The kettlebell snatch uses your entire body to create explosive force. From the initial swing to the overhead lockout, every part of your body—from your hips to your core to your shoulders—works together to move the kettlebell with speed & control. 🏃♂️💨
What makes the snatch such a great exercise for power development is the emphasis on hip drive. 🔥 The power in this movement doesn’t come from your arms, but from the explosive extension of your hips. It’s a full-body movement that teaches you how to use the largest muscles in your body to create momentum, which is exactly how power is generated in real-life activities. 🚀
As you pull the kettlebell, you`re learning to harness the power from your lower body & guide it with precision .
So, don’t leave power training to the pros. Make it part of your fitness routine &watch as everyday tasks get easy 🔥🚀